Crazy Situation

In late 2009 I met a guy, let's call him Lenny, at the Christian club on campus. He was a nice guy and we quickly became friends. The club had this thing called prayer cards where you would right down your prayer requests and give them to another member who gives you theirs and you pray for whatever they wrote down. At first I traded them with a girl I already knew until Lenny started trading with me. Now that I look back on it, he seemed to go out of his way to make sure I had his cards which isn't a big deal but it explains later events. Anyway, he was married so he introduced me to his wife and the three of us got to know each other a little. I didn't find out until about 4 months later but they were having some serious marital problems. The reason I'm adding this is because I ended up being sucked into them. His wife was cheating on him and wanted out of the marriage. At the time Lenny didn't have many friends he could trust and none of those friends were male so I ended up being the one he talked to about his marital problems. He told me a lot of what was going on and made me promise not to mention it to his wife which wasn't a problem since she and I were more acquaintances than friends. Not too long after he started using me as his sound board (I don't mean that to sound mean because at the time I didn't mind) I was sitting with her in the mall, waiting for Lenny to come back, and she told me a bit about their marital issues. She said they were getting a divorce and she was already seeing someone else. After telling me this she asked me to be Lenny's new girlfriend. Naturally I was shocked. She said she wanted him to have someone so he wouldn't try to stop her from leaving and she believed the two of us were a good match. I turned her down saying "I never date married guys. Even when they are getting a divorce." I later informed Lenny of what she said and he seemed a bit surprised but not completely since this was the type of person she was. In May of 2010, after the divorced papers had been filed, she moved back to her home state but she didn't leave without once again suggesting that I date Lenny as soon as possible. I thought about that for a while and had mention it to Lenny. After the divorce was final, Lenny asked me out and I said yes. Honestly I'll give almost anyone a chance once and Lenny was a good guy. We dated for a few weeks before I started getting uncomfortable and unhappy. I tried to make it work and we talked about the future because the thought of the things possible getting better gave me hope that our relationship might work. I continued to do this for a few more weeks because I knew if I stayed with him that he would give me everything I ever wanted but I also knew that wasn't a good reason for staying with someone. We, at one point, began talking about marriage and after I entertained that thought with him he changed a bit. He became very clingy and I am not the kind of girl that can deal with men like that. I even stopped spending time with him because I couldn't deal with it. However, this is not the main reason why I broke up with him. I finally decided to break things off because, although he said he loved (And I believe he did because I believe he still does) I didn't love him. At least not in a romantic way. He begged me to reconsider but I knew I couldn't stay with him because I would never be happy and after weeks of praying about our relationship I knew that Lenny was not the man God intended me to marry and be with forever. He called me a liar because he believed that because we talked about marriage and because I accepted a promise ring from him that I lied about it. Maybe it is the same as lying though I didn't see it that way. He is the type of person that takes everything you say as a promise. For example, if I said "I may come over tomorrow" he would take that as a promise. Even when we were just friends he would accuse me of breaking promises just because he assumed what I said was a promise when it wasn't. After about a month of staying away from him I agreed to carry on a non romantic friendship with Lenny. I actively tried to be friends with him because he was still a nice guy but he still acted as though he was in love with me and then something big happened. His ex-wife started harassing me. She had sent me and my best friend harassing messages soon after she moved which was odd because as I said before she had offered him up to me before she moved. Right after I broke up with Lenny the harassing got very bad. She sent me and my best friend hurtful and hateful emails and IMs. She got naked photos of me that I had sent Lenny while we were dating and created multiple facebooks pretending to me and posted the pictures. It all put us both in a really bad place with our depression. She said she got the pictures by hacking into Lenny's email but I'm not so sure. He is a nice guy and he did a lot for me that I appreciate but he has reason to hurt me this way. I broke his heart and he hates his ex-wife so he may be helping her with info so I will hate her more and he can get me back for dumping him. I caught him in a multiple lies and the timeline he gave me for how she got the pictures from his email didn't makes sense. Also she made fun of me in emails and IMs about information that only Lenny knew. I decided that since there was no way to prove whether or not he was involved that I would need to stop being his friend. I asked my friends to not tell him anything about me at all because he refuses to let go. My hope is that he will finally give up and get over me if he gets cut off from me completely. I guess only time will tell. I just hope he doesn't try to approach me because he believes that things always blow over. He may think that I will get over it over time but to be honest it's him who needs to get over it and I don't mean to sound mean but it's the truth. He refuses to accept that I will NEVER be his girlfriend again. He once told me that God told him we were meant to be together but he also told me when we were dating that God said we could have sex. Since the Bible says premarital sex is wrong that means he is letting his emotions control his brain which is telling him what God wants and not actually what God wants. Basically I believe his emotions are convincing him that God is telling him what he wants to hear and blocking what God actually wants. I also believe this because God has told me the opposite and if God really wanted us to be together then he wouldn't have let me feel the way I did. He would have allowed me to love Lenny in a romantic way. Basically all I'm saying is I'm done with Lenny as a boyfriend and now as a friend for various reasons and I hope he doesn't try to fix things between us because I'm willing to get a restraining and no contact order against him. Hopefully he will finally accept what has happened and let go and it will never come to that. Well that's my life right now...